November 16, 2018

Isaac’s Marriage

By Irven Lee

The subject of marriage is a very proper subject for study. Many of the mistakes that are made would not
be made if there were more use of common sense and of the holy word of God. Those who are yet unmarried
need to think carefully of this subject. Parents and teachers also need to study to improve their own homes and
to train the young.


Abraham wanted Isaac to have a wife with the same racial background. Having more in common and fewer
natural differences makes it easier to maintain the unity of the home. Children, also, are happier if they fit into
one race group or another rather than being a misfit in either. There were, likely, some very capable home
makers in the land of Canaan near Abraham, but they were not of Isaac's race. Later Isaac wanted a wife for
Jacob from among his own people. When the nation of Israel arose the matter of foreign wives became a
problem to the rulers. As to law, there is no demand in the New Testament that there be no crossing of race
barriers in marriage, but observation, wisdom, and common understanding still remind us that there are
problems of adjustment and difficulties when the two are of different racial background.


Isaac and Rebekah were of a similar economic background. The work, the financial, and social background
were very similar in their respective homes. Rebekah was leaving her parents and going a few hundred miles
to be among strangers, but she would not be a stranger to her work, or to the common experiences in the work
of Isaac and his people. The experiences of her childhood and youth fitted her for her place rather than
disqualified her. The New Testament does not make a law that the extremely rich must not marry the extremely
poor, but, as we said about race barriers, wisdom and experience still advise this similar background. The wife
from a background of wealth may feel a bit of self-pity in her privations while her husband may feel that she
is extravagant. Conflicts may arise that annoy because of such different training and experiences in youth.


Isaac and Rebekah respected Jehovah God and were aware of his providence. This oneness in religion is
a most important point of unity in two people's effort to be one in all the ways the Lord ordained. Abraham,
no doubt, must have had this in mind when he sent back to his own people for a wife for his son. Religious
beliefs are a matter of teaching. It is not something for a husband to force on his wife. No individual is in a
position to take religious convictions off like a coat and lay them aside for a new. One can learn but it is
through teaching and not by demands. When one's convictions can be laid aside as a garment there was not
much conviction in the first place.


It seems that marriages in our area are arranged with little or no thought to religious background.
Imagination is used in supposing that there will be no conflicts. If neither has any conviction their differences
may be laughed off as trivials. One simple but unfair plan is often stated as law by some husbands who demand
that their wives change doctrines, methods of worship, and religious practices as if they were lords in the place
of Christ. Conscience is involved. Beyond this, the law of God is involved. This wife is taught to be subject
to her husband but not if his law conflicts with the law of God concerning the name, the Lord's supper, church
government, etc., which are fundamental teachings of our God.


Unhappiness that comes from different religious training comes not alone from the husband's trying to
change his wife's faith by his own law rather than teaching, but there is the difficult and delicate problem of
training children. Comparatively few couples sit down patiently with Bibles to study so that they can correct
their errors of doctrine by the Bible and get together on truth. It is more common for the subject of religion to
become a forbidden topic, when it should be discussed daily before the children. Isaac and Rebekah had a
common faith. There is no way to over emphasize the significance of this wonderful point of unity.


Abraham's servant prayed for guidance when he got to the well in the community among Abraham's people.
Abraham before him had indicated his confidence that God would be with him. If we may pray in any matter
surely we can pray in regard to a decision as fundamental as this. One's daily happiness depends on the home
situation. Young people, please pray over this matter. Abide by the laws of God in making your life's plans.
Your whole future, even your eternal destiny, is involved in this decision about marriage. The Lord loves us
and gives wonderful advice on this very important subject. By all means you should take time to consider his
will carefully.


In Isaac's day it was a common custom for parents to select the marriage companions for their children.
Abraham sent his chief servant to get a wife for Isaac. She was there for the wedding before Isaac ever saw
her. This effort is not intended to try to turn the custom back to that day. Parents could use very poor judgment,
too. Social pride, worldly ambition and other such foolish standards could blind parents, just as lust might blind
the young. A very happy picture is the situation when the young, their parents, and the Lord are pleased by the
plans. We have already suggested prayer and Bible study in preparation for the day of marriage. Surely it is
not out of place to recommend respect for the judgment of parents.


Young people, your parents love you and want the best for you. They are older and have gone further down
the road of life. Their advice should carry weight with you. Many young people rush headlong into unhappy
situations which their parents and many other people who love them could have helped them avoid if they could
have found hearts open to loving counsel. It is very foolish for some very young person to reject wisdom, the
law of God, and the advice of parents to marry one who is unworthy or completely unsuited to make a suitable
companion for life. Parents arranged for weddings in Isaac's day. They could and should give wise advice
today.


Isaac loved Rebekah, the text says. That was natural since they had so many things in common. The
providence of God had a part in this selection.


Truth Magazine, V:11: pp. 7-9
August 1961

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