A Different View . . .

By Carolyn Boshart

As a preacher’s wife, I would like to thank brother Huntoon for his tribute and of preachers’ wives. Tears came to my eyes as I read of the suffering some of my sisters have had to bear. The hard ships described were not new revelation to me. In visiting with other preachers’ wives over the years, I know the very experiences brother Huntoon has outlined have, indeed, occurred.

However, because I personally have never been the subject of such ill-treatment, I would like to present some other aspects of being a preacher’s wife.

I count it a privilege for my family to be in a position to be closely associated with other preachers, especially during gospel meetings. What a wonderful opportunity for my sons to be exposed to Godfearing, people-loving, faithful men who have dedicated their lives to preaching God’s word. What a treat to discuss Scriptures, share experiences, discover mutual friends, recall stories – sad, funny, poignant – about preachers past and present. What a rich environment in which to nurture children.

I feel especially blessed in being able to draw on the wisdom and examples of many older women in several different congregations. As I become one of the older women, I pray that I will, in turn, be able to teach younger women in a variety of congregations.

Having an immediate nucleus of friends in a new location is especially appreciated. I am not very outgoing and having a network of ladies anxious to help you to settle-in is a wonderful resource.

I have found the brethren especially considerate in including my family in social activities. The only drawback here seems to be working out reciprocation.

I am proud of my husband. I love and respect him for many reasons. I know how much he gives of himself in lesson preparations, research, and study. When someone tells me they have appreciated a lesson, or really needed a particular lesson, my pride, love and respect become underscored. To have others recognize his efforts, and to voice their gratitude, gives me such pleasure!

To leave the impression that my life as a preacher’s wife has been without difficulty on occasion would be erroneous. Of course there have been rocky periods; but, overall, the benefits and rewards I have reaped as a result of being married to a preacher far overshadow the difficult times.

I continue to experience a thrill when asked what my husband does for a living and I am able to say, “He’s a minister.”

Guardian of Truth XXXI: 23, p. 725
December 3, 1987