College Education Too Broad In Minds Of Upset Parents

By Abigail Van Buren

Dear Abby: You told “Upset Parent,” who objected to the lack of moral supervision at college: “When a grown child goes off to college, parents cannot expect the authorities there to assume guardianship of their children’s sexual behavior. “

Abby, the college authorities have a responsibility to provide living quarters that are free of drugs, alcohol and a brothel atmosphere.

Every generation of college administrators has probably found enforcing dormitory rules a headache, but the current generation is the first to “turn the zoo over to the animals.” Our young people are being exposed to sexual stimulation at an age when their hormones need no nudging. Why should we make it easy for them?

Look into the matter. You will be shocked by what is going on in 95 percent of our colleges. Men and women live on the same floor, share the same bathrooms and showers; they are openly sleeping together, and nobody blinks an eye! – Another Upset Parent

Dear Parent: After reading the mail this week, I feel more like Rip Van Winkle than Abigail Van Buren. I confess I was not aware that the situation is exactly as you described it in all but a very few colleges in our lovely liberal land. Read on:

Dear Abby: I live in a university town and I frequently visit other universities as a speaker. I am usually housed in the women’s dorm. There is no security. I have gone to the ladies’ bathroom at midnight and found men and women showering there – together! Reputable hotels do not permit visitors who are not registered to remain overnight in rooms or hallways. A university dormitory should be run at least on the level of a reputable hotel – not a hot sheet place in the red-light district. – Appalled, Norman, Okla.

Dear Abby: I was barely 18 when I went away to a state university. I didn’t drink, smoke or engage in sex with the men I dated. Living in a college dormitory was a new experience for me. There were no restrictions whatsoever. My roommate’s boyfriend would spend the night in her bed, which was only inches from mine, so I had to find somewhere to sleep or just stay in the same room with them! I requested a change of roommates, but my new roommate was no better than the first. When I complained to the authorities again, I was told: “If you keep this up, you are going to get a reputation for being difficult!”

Years ago, college students were not allowed to have their own apartments on campus because the college authorities wanted to keep their moral standards high. Today, the students who want to keep high moral standards must move out of the college dorms and get their own apartments. – Disgusted in Massachusetts

Dear Abby: We sent eight children to college over the last 24 years, and I have witnessed an unbelievable change in the so-called house rules.

Underage drinking, partying, sex, pot and drugs have become so common and “acceptable” they arc seldom cause for disciplinary action. Abby, please make some surprise inspections of some college dorms. You will be surprised. -Father of Eight

Dear Abby: I agree with “Upset Parent” concerning the free and open sexuality in college dorms. I believe college authorities should take some steps to control immorality in the dorms.

First, they should eliminate coed dorms. I strongly object to your statement that “If young adults are inclined to fool around, they will find a way to do it on their lunch hour.”

If young men were kept out of young ladies’ quarters and vice versa, it would certainly help to correct this situation.

How did we ever get into this mess, and where will it end? – Harrisburg Parent

Dear Parent: We got into this mess when the rules were so consistently ignored they might as well not even have existed. And it will end when enough students and parents get that message to the college authorities.

Guardian of Truth XXXII: 13, p. 397
July 7, 1988

“Footnotes”

By Steve Wolfgang

Footnote Thomas Campbell, “Declaration and Address,” in H. Shelton Smith, et al., eds., American Christianity (New York: Charles Scribner’s Sons, 1960), 1583.

The following is Proposition I of the “Declaration and Address”: “That the Church of Christ upon earth is essentially, intentionally, and constitutionally one, consisting of all those in every place that profess their faith in Christ and obedience to him in all things according to the Scriptures, and that manifests the same by their tempers and conduct, and of none else; as none else can be truly and properly called Christians.”

This statement, prepared by Thomas Campbell on September 9, 1809, is probably the most famous quotation from the nineteenth century restoration movement. Campbell, “tired and sick of the bitter janglings of a party spirit,” li~d joined himself together with a small group of like-minded people into the “Christian Association of Washington.” Disgusted by creeds, theology, sectarian churches, and an arrogant clergy, they determined to be “Christians only,” announcing their motto: “Where the Scriptures speak, we speak; were they are silent, we are silent.” They sought for “the restoration of primitive Christianity.”

From the beginning there were two clear themes in the thinking of the restoration leaders, and they were both implicit in Proposition I of the “Declaration and Address.” One is the essential unity of the church. Unity is God’s will; it was Jesus’ fervent prayer (John 17:21). This unity which God intends is possible if Christians will adhere to the one constitution which God has provided in his word. And so we work to restore the essential, intentional and constitutional unity of the New Testament Church of Christ. The second theme in Thomas Campbell’s statement was “obedience to him in all things according to the Scriptures” as the means of restoring unity to God’s people. Thus, these reformers began their long and tedious journey to search the Scriptures to find those biblical principles upon which all men could unite. They urged, “If any man speak, let him speak as the oracles of God” (1 Pet. 4:11). They slowly and carefully revised their practices to bring them into agreement with biblical examples. They labored diligently to “restore the ancient order of things.

As Campbell said, who truly can be called Christians except those who united in his church and on his word?

– Ed Harrell

Guardian of Truth XXXII: 13, p. 391
July 7, 1988

Boles Orphan Home . . . Things Have Changed!

By Hayes Reneau

Few members of the church of Christ are unaware of Boles Home. Most know it played a dominant role in the ugly division which exists today. The following article written by reporter Theresa Causbie Dempsey appeared in the Herald Banner of Greenville, Texas, March 27, 1988. 1 didn’t want to reproduce the whole thing, but for fear of claims that I had not clearly stated something, I will. I don’t believe all those churches who are sending support to Boles Home know what it has become, “a small city.” I believe that those who contribute are being told that the benevolence is to support orphans. The article says there are no orphans. Money that is contributed spills over into the school district which offers secular education to many more than the “home” includes. The protests that there is a separation of facilities are purely cosmetic. Read this and pass it along.

“QUINLAN – It began in January 1925 as a home for orphans on farmland donated by Hunt County residents W. F. Boles and his wife Mary. In the 63 years since, Boles Home Inc. has cared for more than 8000 children and remains one of the leading group child care facilities in the area.

“The superintendent of the home, Alan Sowders, said even though the facility has been located in Hunt County since it was established, there is still some misunderstanding about the home.

“He said many people believe the home still to be strictly an orphanage, when it is actually a temporary rare facility for children from ages 5 to 18 years, who, for one reason or another cannot reside with their family for a period of time.

“‘Most people in Hunt County don’t realize we are a family service center. We provide 24-hour-a-day care, the full gamut of what a family would provide,’ Sowders said, ‘plus the services that a child needs outside the home such as counseling. And, work as much as possible with the family to get that child home.”‘

“Sowders said very few of the children now coming to Boles Home are parentless and looking at extended stays at the home.

“‘In the last 15 years the length of the average stay has been dropping. In 1950 the average stay was eight to 10 years. Now if the children are here one and one-half to two years, it’s unusual. About 20 percent are long term – four, five, six years. And that’s when something has happened so there is no other solution.’

“The home superintendent said the facility is supported by the Churches of Christ, whose donations account for about 30 percent of the home’s operating funds. Periodic donations and gifts account for about 30 percent and Sowders said bequests in wills and estates are becoming more beneficial. Very little of the Boles Home $1.25 million annual budget comes from the state and federal funds, he said.

“‘We try to stabilize the children and the family, to get them back where they belong. Here at Boles Home we know we can’t do as good a job as a good home – but we know we can do a whole lot better than a poor home.

“‘We do what we can to aid the suffering, hurt and trauma of a divided home, over which the child usually has no control,’ Sowders said.

“He said that the number one goal is always reuniting the family, but failing that, the home is capable of supplying a child’s need through graduation and standing behind him for his plans after graduation.

“In a partnership, Boles Home Inc., the Boles Home Independent School District and Boles Home Church of Christ, make up a small city. The home facilities include the cottages for the children and their house parents, administration buildings, a commissary and the school buildings which are leased by the school district. A visitor also finds a natatorium, a beef lab, a ceramics lab, an agriculture building and other similar facilities.

“Sowders said perhaps the biggest misconception is that the Boles Home School is a private school for the Boles Home children only.

“Boles Home ISD is a state-supported, state-accredited school district – that just happens to be the smallest in the state in terms of geographic size. Gram Sweeney, the ISD superintendent, said the district covers six square miles, with three of those covered by Lake Tawakoni.

“‘We have 200 students in pre-kindergarten through 12th grade’ Sweeney said. ‘About 30 or 50 of those are from Boles Home, about 80 are transfers and the remainder are from the community in the district.

“‘We are one of the poorest districts in the state, yet with assistance from the home, we have some of best facilities of any Class-A school in Texas. We have an indoor pool, four vocational programs and we are in the second year of participating in TI-IN,’ Sweeney said.

“TI-IN is a satellite educational program sponsored by the Region 10 Educational Service Center that offers smaller school districts the opportunity to teach advanced classes they might otherwise not be able to offer.

“Sweeney said the leasing arrangement between the home and the school district is the only one in the nation. The district employs 21 teachers with one principal and has an annual budget of approximately $750,000.

“Sowders said many social workers think group care for children is an anachronism. ‘We were told 10 years ago that group care was on the way out – that foster care was the way to go. We don’t think that’s always so.

“‘It takes 10 times the adjustment on the part of the child in a foster home than it does here. We don’t become his family, he doesn’t have to do away with his own personality. We encourage contact with the family and intrude as little as necessary.’

“Sowders said in the cottages, which are segregated by sex and age, children learn how a successful family functions from the examples set by their houseparents. A child who can function and get along with others in a family setting, can do so in the community setting.

“One cottage is co-ed. The junior and senior cottage is a mixed group to prepare the teens for independent living.

“‘We want these children to function responsibly for themselves and see living as something they can control. They are surrounded by people who are successful and are on their way to becoming successful,’ Sowders said.

“Approximately 50 children are currently residing at the home, but the budget is set to care for 75. Plans are to begin construction of another cottage within a year.

“Sowders said the families of the children maintain custody and have the right to remove the children from the home. ‘We never say to parents, “You have failed. Now let us take over and you get on down the road,” He said.

“‘We tell people if their child has needs they can’t meet, we’ll help until they can,’ Sowders said.

“Boles Home, which operates under a Board of Directors of I I men, is in the midst of designing a 10 years program -‘Boles 98.’ Sowders said the plan will include campus structures, services, staff needs, necessary funding goals to be reached along the way.

“‘Sowders said, ‘We’ll be here as long as children and their families need help getting their lives in order. We’ll be glad to close down when we’re no longer needed.”‘

There you have it. Boles Homes is growing at a phenomenal pace. Its growth is made possible by exploitation and deception. People don’t know what they are supportingi And furthermore they are misled by misleading reports. One item is herein clarified: Boles Home owns the buildings which they lease to themselves, under the term Boles Home ISD. This in turn is shown as a deficit. Likewise, milk, meat, and vegetables from the Boles Home farm is in turn sold to themselves at prices far above retail. This too is shown as a deficit. Goods gathered by churches to feed the orphans are picked up and sold at the commissary.

Money is gathered in from the State and Federal governments, property rentals, churches and wills of people who believe they are helping poor little orphans. The only report I know of which has been made public is the one brother L. L. Dukes “persuaded” Gayle Oler (deceased) out of in 1966. It was too revealing for them, even then.

I firmly believe anything a church can support away from home, they can support at home. Brethren, what objection would you offer to the elders if they proceeded to build a swimming pool, a gymnasium (a “natatorium” yet!), and have ceramic classes where you worship? Moreover it would be for all citizens of the community! What would you say about the money collected to do the Lord’s work being used for such? If the church where you are a member sends money to the “small city” of Boles Home, how could you honestly protest?

Brother Sowders’ claim that Boles Home provides a more family-like arrangement than foster homes is ludicrous. If that isn’t what he means I have missed the point. “It takes 10 times the adjustment on the part of the child in a foster home than it takes here. We don’t become his family, he doesn’t have to do away with his own personality.” Court Family Services investigate to assure that a family applying for foster home status is a family arrangement which would put the child in a normal, natural home atmosphere. He certainly doesn’t have to do away with his personality! He sees normal family conditions, he has no intimidation of institutional surroundings. Think about it.

In the Herald Banner April 24, 1988, under the heading Foster parenting filled with challenges Jayne Cannon writes of a family in Campbell Texas. She reports: “At ______ and _____’s home East of Campbell, there’s almost always room for one more.

“The ______ have seven children of their own but still open their home-and-hearts to foster children. Since August 1983, the ______ have been foster parents to more than 20 children. . . .

. . .”We get attached to the kids, sure,” ______ said, “But you’ve got to remember that most of the time what these kids want more than anything else is to go back home. From the time they get here, you’re working for something, and usually that’s to get them back home whether it’s to their parents or grandparents or an aunt or uncle. They want to be with family.”

In my discussions with these brethren and, indeed, all others James 1:27 was always the passage used to prove the scripturalness of churches supporting it. While James 1:27 is not authority for the church acting collectively to do anything; certainly even the wildest of imaginations cannot seriously and honestly apply it to the Boles Home of today.

Factually, it is most unusual to find someone who is pro-Boles Home being supported through church treasuries who even feels the need to attempt to prove its scripturalness. It is the norm to deride anyone who might ask for biblical precedent to sustain the practice. Prejudice the people against anyone who may inquire is the preachers’/elders’ tactic commonly employed: “He’s just another anti!” “With all the good we’re doing, how could it be wrong?” “It’s a ‘good work,”‘ etc.

After reading the foregoing article it stands apparent, if anyone feels former practices were sustained by Scripture, today it’s a brand new ball game! Surely brother and sister Boles had no vision of their orphan home becoming such as described by Sowders and Sweeney.

Guardian of Truth XXXII: 13, pp. 394-396

Christianity In The ’80s (3): Wimpy Saints

By Roger Shouse

Fearless and brave. Tried and true. The valiant saints of the first century were told not to back down but to hang in there. Be firm, be faithful and be there in the end. Such noble scenes as this aspire us but for a moment and then we return to the hum-drum of the 1980’s.

One of the most discouraging things today is to find a “deflated Christian.” A child of God in which there is no fight, no vigor, and no enthusiasm. In fact, every once in a while you have to punch such saints to make sure that they are still alive. I refer to these folks as “wimpy Christians. ” Wimpy because they let the world push them, test them, walk all over them and abuse them spiritually and they timidly sit on the sidelines without the faintest idea as to what they should do. And those who do know are too wimpy to raise their voices in opposition. You see, wimpy saints don’t like to say no when everyone else is saying yes. They don’t want to sit while everyone is standing. They are fearful of letting their religion show outside the meeting house. They are certain that someone will call them a “fanatic” or a jerk because their “light” may be shining in someone’s eyes. The faith of a wimpy Christian is shallow. As a result they have no backbone to standup to the world and no courage to push back as they should.

But wimpy saints is more than an attitude of fear. You see, it affects their behavior as well. They compromise here and there to make the appearance to the boys at the office that they are “one of the guys” just like they are. wimpy saints while not saying profane words, will say those little off colored quirks that says “I go along with what you are saying.” wimpy Christians generally have a problem with Sunday evening and Wednesday services. You see their neighbors might catch them leaving and expose them as being “caught up in some religion.” wimpy Christians have a hard time remembering to bring their Bibles to services. At home the Bible of a wimpy saint collects a lot of dust. Now pay close attention to the following verses if you will.

1 Tim. 6:12 – Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses.

2 Cor. 10:5 — Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.

2 Thess. 2:15 — Therefore, brethren, stand fast, and hold the traditions which ye have been taught, whether by word, or our epistle.”

If you let others talk you into doing wrong then you shall never receive heaven. Instead of letting them pressure you into the wrong, you stand up and pressure them into the right. It’ll take faith to do this. It’ll mean that the lines of battle will be drawn. It’ll make you proud to be a Christian when it is all over. “If any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed” (1 Pet. 4:16).

Guardian of Truth XXXII: 13, p. 396
July 7, 1988