Bible Basics: Responsibilities of Husband/Father

By Earl Robertson

The word of man’s creator is not silent concerning the duties which lay heavily upon the man. The philosophy of unisexualism can never truly destroy the identity of man with his inherent characteristics and responsibilities as opposed to the female. The will of God makes the difference!

God created them male and female (Gen. 1:27; 5:2; Matt. 19:4). He did not create two males. He did not create two females. God made them male and female. He made the male, Adam, first and then made the women for the man (1 Cor. 11:8, 9). The woman is the weaker vessel and must look to her husband as being in control of her (1 Pet. 3:7). Peter says the husband must dwell with his wife “according to knowledge.” Vincent says, “With an intelligent recognition of the nature of the marriage relation.” Peter says “giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel.” Aponemontes is a present active participle and is rendered “giving” in this verse. This word is not used any place else in the New Testament. It is used in the sense of the husbands’ dwelling with his wife, and is said to literally mean, “to portion out, and is appropriate to the husband as controlling is to be meated out to the wife.” This must be true because of the headship of the man (Eph. 5:23), and the Biblical demand for the wife to submit to her husband (Eph. 5:24, 33). Paul wrote, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord” (Co. 3:18). The very fact that in this husband/wife relationship there is the divine injunction for the wife to reverence and submit to her husband lies the headship of the husband. That headship is respected by godly wives; but, rebellion obtains in the eases where the wife either disbelieves what the Bible says about this relationship, or she simply flaunts the divine rule and impudently obtrudes on sacred ground where angels fear to tread. In this, she rudely and/or clandestinely arrogates to herself rule for which there is no justification, bringing upon herself dishonor and failure and finally judgment itself. The husband must assume headship.

The lack of respect for God’s order of creation has produced the state of irreverence in which we see unisex, sodomy, prostitution and every other sexual vice – as prevalent as in the Hellenistic world. But the godly can change this!

Truth Magazine XXIV: 41, p. 665
October 16, 1980

Who Is “Guilty” Of What According To The Scriptures?

By William C. Sexton

Recently in response to the article, “Can Christians Identify `False Teachers’?” (Truth, 11-22-79, p. 5), I received the following note from Iowa – the name is unimportant in this context, the concept and teachings are what I wish to deal with here.

Bill,

According to your own definition of “False Teachers” (Truth 11/22/79, 9th paragraph), you are guilty, for you have not reached a state of perfection in doctrine. The scriptures do not use the term as you do. I will explain if you are interested. Let me know. If you hang on to this idea, you will excommunicate your wife!

Now, let us look at the 9th paragraph of that article and see if an unbaised mind will reach the same conclusion:

It is clear to the unbiased mind, I believe, that these authorities of the Greek word who translated ‘false teacher’ understand the meaning to be describing the person who is teaching something claiming it to be of God when in fact it is not l Consequently when any of us teaches things claiming that such is from God and it is not, then we are `false teachers.”

If one is familiar with some of the teachings that are going around and have been advocated for the last decade or more, he sees the fallacy of this man’s thinking, immediately: the distinction between doctrine and gospel theology is at the heart of it! Such cannot be sustained by the scriptures, however, and such needs to be seen for what it is – an effort to liberalize the teachings and sanctions of God’s people to accept whoever claims to have been baptized. We challenge each reader to give adequate consideration to the contents of these claims and the consequences of following that course.

I sent the following note to this Iowa accuser:

________________ Name,

Your judgmental proclamation of me is untrue, a lie, having no basis other than your theological presupposition. There is not one word in the article where I made “a state of perfection in doctrine” as the standard. Instead, I affirmed that the scriptures are the standard, not man’s own subjective feelings.

Christ says, “If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him and if he repent, forgive him” (Lk. 17:3). I rebuke you in the name of Christ for charging me falsely (2 Tim. 3:3, “false accusers”) and call upon you to “repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the thought of throe heart be forgiven thee” (cf. Acts 8:22).

I am interested in truth, but not in any more judgmental proclamations of ( Name), for I have received enough of

them – in that you have sent me several envelopes filled with such over the last couple of years. Remember?

1. I believe that the scriptures are all “inspired of God,” as they claim to be (2 Tim. 3:16-17; 2 Pet. 1:20-21). If you don’t believe that, then any discussion about what is said therein would be unprofitable until we discuss that (cf. John 17:17). Your writings leave me thinking you don’t.

2. I believe that the scriptures were written to be understood (Eph. 3:3-4). If you disagree with that, then we’d need to discuss that, before concerning ourselves with the meaning of passages. If we can’t understand the writings, then it is foolish to spend time in that regard, and much of the theological proclamations I see have that underlying principle involved.

3. If “false teacher” is only the person with an impure motive, can I and you identify one? Must we read hearts to do so? Do you claim to have heart reading ability? I don’t have that ability myself! Did the Lord tell us to be aware of “false teachers,” to do something that we can’t possibly do?

Sincerely, William C. Secton

Conclusion

I have corresponded with brethren for nearly ten years, now, who have been advocating the doctrine-gospel distinction theology. I find it strange how un-reasonable very intelligent men can be when they accept a position and get all wrapped up in it, as these have done. A folder filled to the brim is in my file of a “certain brother’s” materials, letters from him wherein he is trying to persuade me that the first part of Mt. 28:19-20 must be understood alike but that the last part is impossible of being understood alike! He argues that the whole basis of division in the “brotherhood” (yea, in the whole of Christendom) is due to the failure to make this distinction.

If one will go to his concordance and look at the word doctrine – didache – he will find that people obeyed it in becoming “free from sins” (Rom. 6:16-18) and that the disciples “continued in” it, growing and learning what to do as Christians (Acts 2:42). Likewise, if one will look at the word gospel – euangelion – he will find that it refers to that by which one is “saved,” receiving the forgiveness of sins (Mk. 16:15-16; 1 Cor. 15:Iff) and that which one must continue to believe and accept, not accepting a “perverted” gospel (Gal. 1:6-10). We will be judged according to the “gospel” that Paul preached (Rom. 2:16). Paul was ready to “preach the gospel” to those who were at Rome, called saints (Rom. 1:15, 7).

So, the distinction that is made by “certain brethren” is artificial, humanly devised, designed to sustain some man developed theology! The presupposition is that man needs to be united when it comes to becoming a child of God, a Christian; but, then division is inevitable and cannot be otherwise. So, we ought to just accept each other without regard to differences in beliefs and/or practices. Yet, why are they so hard on us who differ with them? Reasonable?

After having discussed with some elders and a preacher one night in Wichita, in which one of the elders who was a English professor at WSU and who had argued that my view of Gal. 1:6-10 was wrong because we could not expect people to understand alike, I though “how silly” for the man to say I was wrong on the interpretation. If it was not possible to understand alike, then how did he know but that my view was not right? It seemed to me that he was arguing for something that could not possibly be right: for if I was wrong and he could discern it, then he was saying that what he was arguing for was wrong – because he. did know that I was wrong: we did have to agree! Is this not a case of “wise” men becoming fools (cf. Rom. 1:22, 21) and will not progress be made in the same direction of those Paul lifted up as bad examples?

Beloved, who is guilty of error, according to the scriptures? He who goes onward and fails to abide within the confines of revelation (2 John 9; Rev. 22:18-19). That revelation is complete, understandable, and practicable! Respect it and benefit from your response to it, beloved.

Truth Magazine XXIV: 41, p. 665
October 16, 1980

Unscriptural Marriages

By Bill Imrisek

Several times in the past couple of weeks I have been asked by different people a similar question that pertains to marriage and divorce. The frequency with which this question has been asked leads me to believe that others may also be interested in the principles that are involved in it. For this reason I would like to set forth the question that has been asked along with my reasons for answering it as I do.

The question is: Would you, as a preacher, knowingly join in marriage a man and a woman where either one or both of them had been married previously but involved in a divorce for unscriptural reasons? My answer to this question is, absolutely not. Let me explain why.

Some Preliminary Matters

To answer this question satisfactorily there are some matters that need clarification.

Matter 1: Performing marriages is not a responsibility imposed upon me in the scriptures by reason of my being a preacher. It is merely a privilege granted to me by the government. As a preacher, I may choose to perform a marriage ceremony if I see in it the opportunity to teach God’s truth about the marriage relationship, its obligations and responsibilities. But on the other hand, I also have the right to choose not to perform such a ceremony if, out of respect for my conscience and regard for the teaching of God’s word, I believe that the resulting marriage would be a sinful relationship. That which God condemns I cannot fellowship (Eph. 5:11).

Matter 2: To speak of a “divorce for unscriptural reasons” implies that God has something to say about the matter. And, indeed, He does. It is God who created the marriage relationship and it is God’s will that must govern it. After stating that marriage was intended by God to be a permanent relationship, i.e., until death (Matt. 19:4-6), Jesus instructs us, “Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and he that marrieth her when she is put away committeth adultery” (Matt. 19:9).

From this passage I learn, (1) that God allows only one ground for divorce – fornication; (2) that to divorce for any other cause and then to remarry is to commit adultery; (3) :hat a marriage contracted with the one who has been put away for fornication is deemed adulterous; and thus, (4) the only one who is free to marry again after a divorce is the one who put away his mate upon the ground of his mate’s fornication. Other passages in the New Testament that deal with this matter are: Matthew 5:31-32; Mark 10:2-11; Luke 16:18; Romans 7:2-3.

As a preacher I am told to “preach the word” (2 Tim.4:2). If this is the truth, then this is what I must teach. The truth says that a marriage, which involves a party from a previous marriage which was dissolved for other reasons than fornication, is adulterous; and a marriage, which involves one who has previously been put away for fornication, is adulterous. To assist in the creation of such a sinful relationship by the performing of a marriage ceremony would itself be sinful (Prov. 4:14-15; Eph. 5:11).

The Heart of the Matter

When a preacher joins in marriage a man and woman who do not have a lawful right (according to God’s law) to marry, he is:

(1) Making sin appear respectable. Although the concept of a couple just “living together” without the benefits of marriage is becoming more widespread in our society, the majority of people still frown on such a relationship. They would rather see the couple get married. Marriage is still considered more respectable. But let us remember that sin is still sin, whether it is the sin of “living together” in a blatantly immoral relationship or if it is the sin of being “married together” in a relationship that God calls “adulterous.” The preacher who would join together in a marriage those who do not have a lawful right to marry from God’s viewpoint would be helping the couple camouflage sin (adultery) and would be making what is sinful appear respectable (by calling it marriage).

(2) Lending his endorsement to an adulterous relationship. Proverbs 16:30 teaches that to remain silent when an evil is being perpetrated is to “bring evil to pass.” “He that compresseth his lips bringeth evil to pass.” Rather than endorsing this relationship, the preacher ought to “reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and teaching” (2 Tim. 4:2). He ought to be preaching, “Let marriage be had in honor among you, and let the bed be undefiled: for fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Heb. 13:4). Rather than lending his endorsement to an adulterous relationship, the preacher (as well as every Christian) is to “have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather even reprove them” (Eph. 5:11).

(3) Asking the couple to make promises which they have no right to make. In the marriage vows, the couple promise to commit themselves to each other in the relationship “until death do us part.” If this marriage is a relationship that God calls “adultery,” then the preacher is asking the couple to promise that they will commit adultery for the rest of their lives!

(4) Asking God to bless an arrangement that God condemns. Almost without fail, at some point during the marriage ceremony, the preacher will pray to God asking God to bestow His blessings upon the newlyweds. But if this relationship is adulterous, can God bless what He condemns? The prophet Balaam attempted to get God to curse those whom God had blessed (Num. 22:12; 23:8), but the preacher who would join this couple to each other would be asking God to bless something which He has already cursed (Eph. 5:3, 5).

(5) Helping them to sever their relationship to Christ and to loose all rights to heaven. This must be the most serious consequence of the actions of a preacher who would unite in marriage a man and a woman who do not have a scriptural right to marry. As for fornicators or adulterers, the Bible says, “Their part shall be in the lake that burneth with fire and brimstone; which is the second death” (Rev. 21:8); and again, “They who practice such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God” (Eph. 5:19-21). How can one be dedicated as a preacher to ministering to the souls of men and yet assist them. in severing their relationship to Christ? This reflects again the activities of Balaam who “taught Balak to cast a stumbling block before the children of Israel . . . and to commit fornication” (Rev. 2:14), in order to bring God’s curse upon Israel.

Rather than assisting people to sin we ought to be teaching them the truth of God’s word and be leading them out of the bondage of sin, instructing them to “abstain from every form of evil” (1 Thes. 5:22).

Truth Magazine XXIV: 41, pp. 663-664
October 16, 1980

Biblical Warnings And Admonitions (2): Admonitions

By Mackey W. Harden

As was noted in the first article of this series, the words warn and admonish are synonyms. They are used in many cases interchangeably. Whereas the KJV employs both words, other versions would not make a distinction and would use the word admonish. W.E. Vine defines it as: “to put in mind, admonish . . . It is used, (a) of instruction, (b) of warning.” He goes on to give an important distinction between admonish and teach. Mr. Vine says, “The difference between `admonish’ and `teach’ seems to be that, whereas the former has mainly ih view of things that are wrong and call for warning (emphasis mine, mwh), the latter has to do chiefly with the impartation of positive truth, cp. Col. 3:16.” “Admonition differs from remonstrance, in that the former is warning based on instruction (emphasis mine, mwh); the latter may be little more than expostulation.”

We glean from the writings of the apostle Paul, some admonitions that he gave to the Christians of the first century. These warnings and instructions will help us tremendously in our day-to-day struggle with the forces of evil. Paul wrote these admonitions in hopes of strengthening the spiritual lives of all Christians. People in the world today should realize a very important point about Paul, viz. he did not believe in the doctrine of “Once Saved, Always Saved.” Paul knew he could fall, and that he needed to be very cautious lest he did! “But I keep under my body and bring it unto subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, l myself should be a castaway” (1 Cor. 9:27). If Paul (an apostle) had the fear of sinning so as to be lost, then you and I need to realize that we can, too. This should point out to us the importance of taking heed to Paul’s admonitions.

Admonitions

We are going to examine some “Biblical Admonitions” (in general) that Paul gives in the New Testament (KJV). In the articles to come we will entertain some specific admonitions and warnings.

(1) One another. “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost. And I myself am persuaded of you, my brethren, that ye also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another” (Rom. 15:13-14). If we as Christians would admonish one another as we should, it would help us a great deal in fighting off temptations that cause us to fall. It is our responsibility to admonish one another as we strive for that eternal home. To the Christians at Colossae, Paul wrote, “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly with all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord” (Col. 3:16).

(2) Elders, preachers, and teachers. It is the responsibility of these men to admonish the local church. “And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labor among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you” (1 Thess. 5:12). Elders should employ admonishment as they exercise oversight of a local congregation of God’s people. Teachers should admonish their students in Bible classes-. Gospel preaching should be in such fashion as to admonish Christians to be faithful, and to be careful of the world and its lusts. Too many times there is not enough good, strong teaching and preaching going on in a congregation, to properly admonish the members to greater zeal and faithfulness.

(3) Christians who are disciplined. Paul had much to say in his two letters to the church at Thessalonica, concerning church discipline of those who walk disorderly. In closing out his. second letter he concludes by stating, “And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed. Yet count him not as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother” (2 Thess. 3:14-15). The attitude that a congregation displays toward an erring brother or sister is of utmost importance. I fear that some who have church discipline exercised upon them are treated like an enemy. This should not be! Paul says that we are to admonish him or her (warn, instruct) to return to their rightful place in the church, because he is our brother and we are concerned about his soul.

(4) Fathers to children. We who are fathers have the responsibility to admonish our children concerning the Lord. “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4). We should discipline our children as we raise them, and also instruct them in the ways of the Lord Jesus. If we do not admonish our children about Jesus, but allow them to be trained in the ways of the world, we will surely lose them. If this responsibility was heeded by more fathers, we would not be having many serious problems with our teenagers being unfaithful to the Lord. How about it fathers?

(5) Heretics. Paul wrote Titus, “A man that is an heretic after the first and second admonition reject; knowing that he that is such is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned of himself” (Tit. 3:10-11). According to Thayer’s lexicon a heretic is a false teacher. We are to admonish and warn false teachers to cease their divisive teachings. If they do not take heed to the first admonition, then we are to admonish them a second time. If he still continues to propagate false doctrine, then we are to reject him, which means to avoid association with him.

(6) Remember Old Testament Examples. In 1 Cor. 10, Paul reviews with the Corinthians some grevious mistakes that had been made by the children of Israel hundreds of years before. The reasoning behind this was to let their mistakes serve as examples to Christians, so that we will not fall prey to them, too. “Now all these things happened unto them for ensamples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come” (1 Cor. 10:11). Yes, we can learn from the mistakes of others. If we will look to the Old Testament Scriptures and study them, we can learn many things to help keep us from falling. “For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope” (Rom. 15:4).

Truth Magazine XXIV: 41, pp. 661-662
October 16, 1980