O, That Tongue, of Mine

By Andy Alexander

How many times do those of us who know God’s will concerning the use of our tongue feel like saying, “O, that tongue of mine has gotten me into trouble again”? God created us with a tongue and this tongue can and should be used as God intended.

God has repeatedly warned us about the improper use of our tongue. Cursing, lying, backbiting, gossip, murmuring, vain questioning, and meddling in other’s affairs are all mentioned as sins that can be committed with the tongue (Rom. 1:29-30; 1 Tim. 5:13; 2 Tim. 2:16,23; Eph. 4:25; 5:4; 1 Thess. 4:11). No child of God would argue that these are not serious sins.

We know that any sin in the sight of God is grievous and can cause us to lose our eternal reward, yet sometimes we fail to bridle our tongue and it runs loose like a cat with its tail on fire in a barn full of dry hay (1 Jn. 1:7-9). After the fire has been brought under control and finally extinguished, the damage report is made. Seldom, if ever, can things all be put back like they once were.

So it is with the tongue. When we break a promise and tell something we have been asked not to repeat, a trust is broken. It may take years to build that trust back and it is possible that it will never be as strong as it once was. If we lie and that lie is discovered (most eventually are), it, too, may take years to repair the damage.

Meddling in other’s affairs can also create hard feelings. Some people are more private than others and they do not go around telling everything that’s on their mind. We should respect each other’s privacy. If they have something occurring in their life that they want us to be aware of, they can tell us. Our Lord would not have told us “to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business” if it were not for our own good (1 Thess. 4:11).

There are times when we as brethren should go and talk to another brother or sister about problems they may have. Perhaps sin is involved and a call to repentance is necessary (Gal. 6:1). We must make sure that we take the steps given by our Lord and not veer to the right or left and discuss it with those who have no business knowing of the incident. Gossip can lead to resentment and cause one or more to lose their soul for eternity.

Our tongue must be constantly guarded (Jas. 3:2-12; 1:26). Any occasion when we gather with others can turn into a fertile field where gossip can germinate and grow. After the worship services; after the ladies Bible class; work days; before, during, and after business meetings; and common meals shared together are just a few of these occasions. Let us use these times for the production of valuable fruit such as blessing, encouraging, and exhorting one another – not a place for weeds of gossip, backbiting, and slandering to take root and grow.

Guardian of Truth XXXVI: 12, p. 367
June 18, 1992

Some Things Jesus Never Had

By Johnie Edwards

Jesus was an unusual person. He was God-Man, that is he was both human and divine. John said of Jesus, “In the beginning was the Word, and the word was with God, and the Word was God. And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us” (Jn. 1:1,14). Although Jesus was the Son of God, there are some things he never had:

Jesus Never Had an Earthly Home

Can you imagine a person not having a home? There is not a sweeter word than the word home, It is a good feeling when one has been away to be able to go home. Often it is said of Jesus, “And when he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when evening was come, he was there alone” (Matt. 14:23). Jesus himself said, “The foxes have holes, and the birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay his head” (Matt. 8:20).

Some who have good homes do not appreciate them soon enough.

No Earthly Father

A boy needs an earthly father. It is sad today that many of our young people are being reared without an earthly father. Child correction is the primary responsibility of the father (Eph. 6:4).

Jesus had no real earthly father. He was born of a virgin (Isa. 7:14).

Jesus Never Had a Long Life

The lives of a lot of people are wiped out at an early age. The average life span of men is about 72 years now. Jesus only lived to be about 33 1/2 years old. The Bible refers to him being “about thirty years of age” (Lk. 3:23). Although Jesus lived a short earth life, he lived a full and busy life. He said, “I have finished the work which thou gavest me to do” (Jn. 17:4). Jesus did more in his short life than most ever think about doing. “And there are also many other things which Jesus did, the which, if they should be written every one, I suppose that even the world itself could not contain the books that should be written” (Jn. 21:25). A short, but full and busy life.

No Sin in His Life

Jesus never had any sin in his life. He lived a life of sinless perfection. The Hebrew writer said of Jesus, “For we have not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin” (Heb. 4:15). The apostle Peter said, he “did no sin” (1 Pet. 2:22). Paul told the Corinthians that Jesus “knew no sin” (2 Cor. 5:21). Can you imagine a man living on this earth and never, not once, doing anything sinful?

Jesus Never Had Any Desire to Get Even

Many today carry around a grudge, just waiting for the right moment to get even with others. Not Jesus. Peter said, “Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again” (1 Pet. 2:23). It is written in Isaiah that, “He was oppressed and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a Lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he opened not his mouth” (Isa. 53:7). We would do well to follow his example.

Never Had Any Other Disposition Than to Obey

“Thy will be done” (Matt. 26:42) was the Lord’s disposition toward his Father! “I come to do thy will, O God” (Heb. 10:9) was his purpose in life, even to the point of being “obedient unto death” (Phil. 2:8). We need to be like him in our attitude of obedience.

Guardian of Truth XXXVI: 12, p. 372
June 18, 1992

No Business Meetings

By Dan King

When one studies the meetings of the New Testament, two strike us as closely akin to what we today call “business meetings.” The first is the meeting of the Jerusalem brethren to consider the needs of Grecian Jewish widows who had been formerly neglected in the daily ministration of the church (Acts 6:1-7). The text says, “And the twelve called the multitude of the disciples unto them, and said. . . ” (v. 2). In this case, action was taken and results were immediately apparent: “And the word of God increased, and the number of the disciples multiplied in Jerusalem exceedingly, and a great company of the priests were obedient to the faith” (v. 7).

The other example is the meeting of the leading lights of Jerusalem to resolve the difficulties over the issue of circumcising Gentile converts: “And the apostles and the elders were gathered together to consider this matter. . . ” (Acts 15:6). Although “there had been much questioning” (v. 7) then and “no small dissension and questioning” (v. 2) earlier, yet an effective job was done in maintaining the order of the group and of ultimately coming to a consensus on the issues involved. Furthermore, they took immediate and decisive action to stop the “uncertain sounds” which were emanating from Jerusalem on the matters in dispute.

These two Bible examples are clearly models for us to follow in holding meetings in the churches of today. Clearly decisive action is the thing which brought about the desirable results in both instances. These brethren did not just get together to talk, they met in order to act. Unfortunately, all too often these days, our brethren meet in order to talk, rather than to act. Meetings of this type remind us of the comments made by John Kenneth Galbraith about the meetings held by President Herbert Hoover after the horrible stock market panic of 1929. I offer them here since they are so very apropos:

Yet to suppose that President Hoover was engaged only in organizing further reassurance is to do him a serious injustice. He was also conducting one of the oldest, most important – and, unhappily, one of the least understood rites in American life. This is the rite of the meeting which is called not to do business but to do no business. It is a rite which is still much practiced in our time. It is worth examining for a moment.

Men meet together for many reasons in the course of business. They need to instruct or persuade each other. They must agree on a course of action. They find thinking in public more productive or less painful than thinking in private. But there are at least as many reasons for meetings to transact no business. Meetings are held because men seek companion ship or, at a minimum, wish to escape the tedium of solitary duties. They yearn for the prestige which accrues to the man who presides over meetings, and this leads them to convoke assemblages over which they can preside. Finally, there is the meeting which is called not because there is business to be done, but because it is necessary to create the impression that business is being done. Such meetings are more than a substitute for action. They are widely regarded as action.

The fact that no business is transacted at a no-business meeting is normally not a serious cause of embarrassment to those attending. Numerous formulas have been devised to prevent discomfort. Thus scholars, who are great devotees of the no-business meeting, rely heavily on the exchange of ideas justification. To them the exchange of ideas is an absolute good. Any meeting at which ideas are exchanged is, therefore, useful. This justification is nearly ironclad. It is very hard to have a meeting of which it can be said that no ideas were exchanged (The Great Crash: 1929 138-139).

Sad to say, the “no-business” meetings of Herbert Hoover and his colleagues did not lead to decisive action which might have avoided the collapse of the economy and the onset of the great depression of the 1930s. Instead, they met only to “exchange ideas” and to “create the impression that business is being done.” Nearly an entire generation of Americans grew up in poverty because action was not taken at that one point in history when something could have been done to avert disaster. All they did was talk.

All too often this description fits precisely what happens in the church. We meet about a problem and we talk, but we do nothing decisive. We “take the matter under advisement,” or, as we usually put it: “Let’s think some more about this until the next business meeting, then we’ll talk about it some more.” Such procrastination does nothing except to compound the problem and often make it more difficult or impossible to solve. Think about it:

The automobile engine that “freezes up” because of lack of oil could have been saved if oil had been added before it was too late. Simple administration of antibiotics can save the amputation of an infected limb, if only applied in time. We ought to “consider a thing wisely and carefully”- yes! But then we ought to act. This is the apostolic example from Acts 6 and 15: careful consideration followed by immediate, decisive action.

The following is an outline of what should be the practice in meetings wherein serious problems requiring immediate attention are dealt with. Please notice that this scenario is precisely what the apostles and brethren of the first century did with respect to important questions:

1. Introduce the problem. Describe it completely and precisely, so that all present understand it.

2. Suggest alternative solutions. Sometimes alluded to today as “brainstorming,” this pits the concerted wisdom of the group against the problem. It also gives everyone present the feeling of being included in the process, even if their suggestion does not prove to be the one followed. All should be listened to thoughtfully and without negative comment, at least at first. This permits a free exchange of ideas.

3. Discuss the various alternative solutions to see if they actually solve the problem or create other difficulties.

4. Arrive at a consensus. This assumes, of course, that we are dealing with a group of fair-minded people who can reason together and ultimately agree upon the best solution from among the alternatives. But this is the teaching of 1 Corinthians 1:10 – “that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment. ” If the Lord commanded it of his people, then it must be possible! We certainly remind the sectarian world of how this requires doctrinal unity. We, also, need to be reminded that it applies to us in our dealings with one another.

5. Develop an action plan.

6. Assign those responsible to put the plan into effect.

7. Carry through on the plan immediately. Get it done! If a thing is worth doing then it is worth doing right. And if it is worth doing right, then it is worth doing right then!

In churches of today we will be like the first century church in our “business meetings” only if we transact business in those meetings. If we only talk of business, then we are, in effect, holding “no-business” meetings. If the result of our meetings is prompt, decisive action, then and only then – are we following the apostolic examples.

Guardian of Truth XXXVI: 12, pp. 373-374
June 18, 1992

None Return Again

By Frank Himmel

During a recent family reading of Proverbs 2 we paused to consider verse 19. Wisdom says in reference to an adulteress, “None who go to her return again, nor do they reach the paths of life.” What does it mean, none return again?

Most expositors take it as stating a general rule. “It is very rare that any who are caught in this snare of the devil recover themselves, so much is the heart hardened, and the mind blinded, by the deceitfulness of this sin. Having once lost their hold of the paths of life, they know not how to take hold of them again, but are perfectly besotted and bewitched with those base lusts” (Matthew Henry).

Sadly this observation is true. The unbridled lust which leads one to adultery will likely lead him there again and again. One so naive as to fall for the adulteress’ flattering words (e.g., she “understands him” as his wife does not) is apt to repeat his folly. Witness the number of people who are in their third or fourth marriages, or those who have quit bothering with marriage and just cohabit with one “lover” after another. I confess that I do not understand why anyone, even those who disregard God’s law, would seek a marriage partner among adulterers. They have proven unfaithful to their vows once. Is there reason to think they will not do so again?

I do not mean to rule out forgiveness, by God or man. “No one gets so far into sin that God will not receive him back if he makes the proper amends. But the danger and rule is that a patron of the kind of life described above will continue therein to the end of life” (E.M. Zerr).

Now consider another sense in which the statement, “None who go to her return again,” is true. And in this sense it is not a general rule, but an absolute certainty.

No man who becomes involved in adultery will ever be the same again. He cannot return to where he was. He can be forgiven by God. He can be forgiven by his mate. He can be forgiven by the spouse of his partner in adultery. But things can never be quite the way they were.

The implicit trust his mate placed in him has been broken. The special intimate relationship between husband and wife has been violated. The painful memory of the act remains in the consciences of all involved, try as they may to remove it. The feelings of guilt are still there. To the extent the sin is known to others the reputation is damaged. If those involved are Christians the Lord’s holy name is reproached. If they have children who know of the affair the confidence of those little ones is shaken. Time will aid in healing these wounds, but it cannot completely erase the them.

Some mates elect to put the adulterer away. If they so choose, he/she loses the privilege of a God-approved marriage (Matt. 5:31,32; 19:9), despite what men may say about the matter. His only options are to remain single or be reconciled to his mate (1 Cor 7:11).

Before you become involved in this or any sin, take time to sit down and count the cost. Do not be dazzled by the enticing array in which Satan clothes sin. Look at what is inside. Look at the price you may pay. Look at where you will be after the momentary pleasure in past. Are you entering a place from which there is no return?

“The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; he who would destroy himself does it. Wounds and disgrace he will find, and his reproach will not be blotted out” (Prov. 6:32,33).

Guardian of Truth XXXVI: 13, pp. 385, 407
July 2, 1992