Young People Need “No Skills” (2): Helping Young People Overcome Sexual Pressure

By John Smith

The Human Distinction (2)

Since we have the ability to reason, make choices and practice self-control, it is reasonable that we be held accountable for our actions. God is exceptionally clear in this regard (Ezek. 18:20; 2 Cor. 5:10).

There is no one else on whom we can blame our mistakes. Adam tried, but it didn’t work (Gen. 3:12). When we sin we stand guilty before the Lord. It’s not Mom and Dad’s fault, society’s fault, or your friend’s fault. It’s your own fault! We will live out the “reap what you sow” principle.

Human beings are to operate according to a system of morals and values. We have the ability to know right from wrong if our conscience has been properly trained (Heb. 5:14). God will judge us according to whether we have done good or bad (2 Cor. 5:10). He expects us to make proper use of our conscience and moral nature. This ability is not shared with the rest of creation. Only man, the best of God’s creation, can reason according to a moral standard, making decisions that respect the inherent value of their fellow human.

Values such as respect, self-control, honesty, responsibility and purity are rooted in God’s word and essential for proper relations with the opposite sex. Choices, regarding our sexuality, need to be made with respect for these values. For instance, will a young man or woman ask their partner to risk life-changing or life-ending consequences in order for them to have a few moments of pleasure?

In a recent national survey, a cross-section of young people were asked what influenced their sexual decisions. The results of this survey may surprise you. The number one influence was the morals and values that they had inherited from their parents. “Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it” (Prov. 22:6).

As human beings we are to have commitment to and love for our mates. “Easy sex and one night stands” not only violate God’s laws, but also do insult to the nature of mankind. When man mates with whomever he can, hopping from bed to bed, he acts like an animal, not one made in the image of God.

God’s design for the human family is most respectful. In Matthew 19:4-6 God calls for one man for one woman for life. Husbands and wives are to love and serve one another (Eph. 5:21-23). Wives are told to learn to love their husband (Tit. 2:4). This is not some soft, soapy, sentimental, syrupy type of toe-tingling emotional response, but rather a learned, disciplined response to an imperfect man. They are look out for the best interests of one another while serving one another.

Finally, human beings are expected to take responsibility for their offspring. If a man won’t take care of his ow God declares that he has “denied the faith and is worse than infidel” (1 Tim. 5:8). Many young men today have lo sight of the fact that it doesn’t take a man to father a child but it does take a man to accept the responsibility of rearing the child he fathered. If you father a child or become a mother out of wedlock, you are expected by God to take on all the responsibility for the child’s well being. Are you ready for that?


Man was made in the image of God, but sadly many can not reflect it. There was a commercial a few days ago which several people were seen walking dogs that they resembled. While looking like a dog might be humorous acting like one is not.

Let us determine to live up to our design. Know that what we do make mistakes, God still loves us and desires our salvation. Don’t give up – turn to the Lord.

Guardian of Truth XXXV; 6, p. 164
March 21, 1991